Let it Burn
After visiting this “high end” boat party a week ago, I could not help but see a lot of young women in their early twenties. With large injected lips, breasts and other enhanced body parts, dancing and accompanying men twice their age who were far from what I would call attractive.
And I can’t help but feel that nowadays reluctantly young women become part of a society where we feel pressure to live up to specific standards and where we need to look and act certain ways.
To feel accepted, we act, dress, display ourselves on social media and some of us even go and change our bodies to look specific ways.
Just to be perfect for this so-called “society.”
Something that surprises me is that this phenomenon is affecting women more and more often than men.
Which can be quite logical because women tend to feel more pressure when it comes to being perfect.
Which I believe is something that comes from years and years of a historical misogynistic culture dominated and broken by brutally powerful men.
Women are still too often holding themselves back from participating in the first place. They are holding back their ideas, holding back their contributions, holding back their leadership and their talents.
Too many women still seem to believe that they are not allowed to put themselves forward at all because they are afraid of being criticized or fearful that their work is not good enough or perfect enough.
Young women are still intimidated, and therefore a lot of them are living in the shadows of their partners/boyfriends/husbands.
But this historical man dominated culture rarely stops men to put forth their work. Even if it is far from perfect, they say “ Hey I am 41% qualified, I am perfect for this job!” This culture gives (most) men little to no reason to feel pressured about their appearance, put on makeup, or undergo tons of plastic surgery just to be accepted by society.
And It’s a good thing that most men have this high confidence like attitude which a lot of times can have disastrous outcomes but so often this also seems to work. There are a lot of strong men out there.
Strong men who are actual role models. Who do not need to put down women to make themselves feel powerful.
However, lot’s of women even when they are 99,8% qualified; they hold themselves back just to be on the safe side. And that is why even the most beautiful women still believe they have to undergo plastic surgery to get larger breasts or bigger lips. Women have the idea that they have to be PERFECT to be loved or successful.
So yeah, Let’s give a big hand to this wonderful society which portrays this message every day, to our beautiful young women who are just now starting to partake in this cultural mess.
This is my cry to break the habit.
My cry to women of all ages to understand that the drive for perfectionism is a total waste of time. Because nothing and I mean nothing we do, we achieve or look like is ever beyond criticism.
So It’s time. It’s time to step out of the so-called shadows.
The shadows of our fathers, grandfathers, brothers, partners, and husbands. And It is time to Live the dreams that our Sisters, Mothers, and Grandmothers sacrificed for us.
It’s time we stop holding back and start reclaiming that what we have hidden for many years. It’s time to recover our light and Fire Up!
Burn every last piece what’s left of that Dark shadow you're standing in.
And once we stand in our own truth, in our own Light,
We will not overshadow
But we Will Brighten every room we come to stand in and Enlighten every soul that dares to touch us.
Author: Roshni Jagroep