You Complete Me
Thousands and Thousands of years ago when people were still cavemen, men were historically responsible for hunting food, taking care of shelter. Basically, taking care of the survival process.
And women, they took care of the cooking, nurturing of the home and children.
Men fuelling the survival process and Women fuelling making it worthwhile to live.
This Created an excellent ambiance for life.
This is what history books taught us and what society tells us even today.
But is it really so?
Based on ancient Chinese philosophy the masculine and feminine “Yin and Yang” are often thought of as complementary (rather than opposing) forces. Forces which often cooperate to form a vital system in which the whole is greater than the assembled parts.
According to this philosophy, Two halves together complete wholeness.
When you split something into two halves – yin/yang, it upsets the equilibrium of wholeness. Both halves are chasing after each other while seeking a new balance with each other.
This makes a lot of sense when people say things like “She completes me.” “We complete each other” “I feel lack or emptiness when I’m alone.”
This does not necessarily mean that we cannot be alone, this does not mean that we are not able to be happy by ourselves.
This probably means that we are created either man or woman. And by nature, we either have dominating feminine energy or masculine energy.
Therefore, to find our balance… to find our equilibrium, we search for that complimentary opposite energy which is very dominant in others but we find very little of it within ourselves.
When we have only one dominant energy it is challenging to be open to life and to know life, but when we include the other...
We open ourselves to know life.
We are all born with both energies, The Feminine is a very fiery form of energy, it is everything that changes. The Masculine is a more rational form of energy, a constant which perceives the change.
The feminine energy is that what makes it possible for us to perceive things as beautiful, not beautiful, to feel, to love, to express, to be creative.
The masculine energy is a more conscious, aware, focused, rational energy which makes it possible for us to determine whether things are useful or not useful.
In today’s world, we live in a society driven by economics, earning money, chasing wealth. We want to achieve more, become more successful. The more we achieve, the more we earn, the better chances we have at survival. This is the ideal! The "Macho, Masculine, Survival" Ideal.
Because this is so embedded within our society, we have created a dominance of the masculine ideal over the feminine ideal.
And whether we like it or not, subconsciously we are slowly making a lot of women like men.
A lot of women also feel that to be significant they have to earn money, they have to climb the social ladder to show that they too can fit into the "survival idea".
And as good as we are in everything we do, a lot of women are becoming even better then men at survival.
And a small percentage of women not able to cope are becoming like barbie dolls. A mere shadow of what feminine power really portrays.
We are unconsciously creating a lot of imbalance.
Because of this economically driven society, we make it very difficult for women and even some men to be who they predominantly are.
In this economic driven society, only when a woman acts like a man she can be considered as successful. If she acts like a woman, this is often considered as weak.
To be feminine is not weak, it is just fulfilling a different aspect of life.
So, unless our values change so that our minds grow beyond the survival process.
With inclusion rather than oppression of this beautiful aspect which we call “the feminine.”
We will never have “A life worth Living"
Author: Roshni Jagroep